Starting an Online Relationship



Halifax isn’t the biggest city out there, so you might need to find some other means to meet women. Going online will give you the option to shop around for a relationship. But how do you start an online relationship? There are (at least) five things to consider when giving it a go. You may find other aspects that need addressing as you go, but in 99 percent of the settings you’d find yourself dating a girl online they all tend to have at least similar issues. Don’t let that deter you from finding a girl online, though. Getting started is pretty easy.

Find a Venue

A venue is any place where something happens; it doesn’t have to be a physical area, picking the right dating venue for you when looking for some girls online will cut down the chase time since you won’t have to go from site to site. For some people it could be as simple as picking a popular dating site and signing up. Others might be interested in finding some girls online through an online game or a social media site.

If You’re Using a Dating Site

The first things first; you’ve got to set up your profile. Are you willing to pay for it? Some dating sites do come free, but have such limited communication that way that it’s almost not even worth it to join. If you’re serious about getting a girl online, then be willing to pay the cash to find her. Pick a well known site like SocialSex or Match so you’ll have a larger number of women going on when you do. A majority of dating sites will have a few questionnaires for you to fill out so that they can match you up with someone who will have similar tastes to yours. After that you get to upload your pictures and type in your « about me » sections. Now that you’re all set up you get to start shopping around. Go to the advanced search bar and type in everything that’s really important to you: where she lives, her age, her body type, etc. Pick at least three of the girls that match your ideal since they most likely won’t all come running once you contact them. That’s the next step: send them a message. The first message shouldn’t be too forward. Obviously you’re here because you want to find someone and so are they, but that doesn’t mean that all romance should be dead. Compliment something about her profile (her picture, what movies she likes, etc.) It’s especially nice if you’ve commented on something that the two of you have in common as a starter. Messages will get sent back and forth and eventually you’ll start chatting on a regular basis. You might get giddy feelings (although you’d never admit it) and have scheduled talks. The next step would be to solidify your dating status and maybe move into meeting each other in real life…or at least start Skyping each other. Many people who meet up this way end up very committed to each other and some even get married. Check your dating site to see what they’re numbers are on successful relationships that happened through them.

If You’re Using a Game

Massive Multiplayer Online games (or MMOs for short) actually have a surprising record of hooking people up. To get started, pick a game, any game. World of Warcraft and Runescape are popular MMOs that are actually really fun to play as well. Get an account going with them (some require payment, some don’t) and build your character. Honestly, it doesn’t much matter what your character looks like since the templates won’t really match what you look like at all. Just customize it to something you’ll like. Now start playing. There’s two ways of finding girls online through games: be an awesome player or level up with them. The first route requires lots of game time that will bump up your stats and your gear. Once you’re a high enough level you can pick a girl to start gaming with. If you take her with you on your quests and level her up faster she’ll get the hint that you’re into her. The other option is actually the way to build the strongest bond. Working through hardships together and helping each other out is really similar to real life, simulating the feelings she’d get if you were actually there for her. Whichever way you choose to go, make sure to chat in game with her and eventually get to the point where you exchange numbers, emails, and/or instant messaging addresses. One thing will lead to another and soon the two of you will want to talk to each other outside of gaming. The next step to take is to get to know the real person behind the player. At first it’s okay if she calls you DarkLord89, but eventually she’ll want to know your real name and real personality.

If You’re Using a Social Media Site

This is probably the most common way that people actually end up dating online. With sites like Twitter, Facebook, Myspace, and Tumblr, it’s easy to find people and know what they’re doing all the time. The first thing you need to do if you hope to get a girl this way is to get a large following and start following a ton of hot women. The more you put yourself out there the higher the chance is that one of these ladies will take to your flirting and constant attention. Create a niche for yourself. It could be that you’re a comedian, a movie reviewer, and a photographer, whatever. Just think of something that you either do well now or could possibly do very well in the future. You’ll come across less creepy if you have a purpose on the Internet (besides picking up girls). Start doing cute things like tagging the girl you’re flirting with in posts/tweets or putting up things that you think she’ll like. Eventually she’ll start doing the same to you. Once you’ve publicly started flirting, it’s only a matter of time before the private messages start. Most likely you’ll start cyber sexing (at least a little bit) before you actually sound like you’re dating. Online romances seem to head toward the sexual side first, for some reason. Maybe it’s because you don’t have physical contact to go off of. If that’s the case, then you’re going to need to brush up on your online sexing and start slowly getting her to do the same. The next step would be to decide if you’re actually going to carry this beyond the social media site and make it more serious, or just keep it as a fun back and forth thing. No matter where you “meet” your online lover, the biggest thing to decide in the end is if you both realistically want to be in a relationship. One of the hardest parts of being confined to cyberspace is that you have no physical touch. It’s not even just the sex that throws people into “cheating” (although that’s often the case), it’s the fact that you can’t hold them or hug them or do anything other than pretend that they’re there with you.